For as long as I can remember, I have never really fitted “in” wherever in may be. I have always struggled to fit into large group of girls, I often find them intimidating or find that they at times don’t get my dry, largely male friend driven wit.
At school I spent most of my life being bullied and ridiculed for not having a particular group that I belonged to. Sure I had friends, in fact some of those close friends I even have now, but I’m not one of these girls that have a particular “clique” that they have had for years. My friendship groups are fluid and have grown and changed with my life.
The problem with being a “social butterfly” is that it’s very hard to make people stick. When you flit in and out of groups, you’re never really the first person on people’s mind. This can often leave those of us with multiple groups of friends feeling forgotten or at the wayside when plans are made. When I was younger, this used to bother me quite a lot. I always wondered why I couldn’t be the girl in the big friendship group with a solid group of friends since the year dot.
As I’ve grown older I’ve come to realise that the saying about your best friends being on one hand is really true and it’s really important. It doesn’t really matter if they are all in the same group, because it offers you change and a variety of personalities.
I have different friends that I know I can go to for different life problems and joys. Friends that I know I can share deep secrets with and have tremendous laughs with. I have friends that I know would hit it off if they met and I have friends that I worry would cause a combustion if they ever stepped within a few feet of each other.
The beauty of friendship is that it is diverse and changing as life evolves around us and as I grow older I couldn’t be happier to flutter my wings around the many social circles that life has to offer.
Until Next Time